Confidence seems somewhat elusive to those who doubt
themselves. We have all been there, looking round thinking of all the things
that could go wrong and all the ways we could fail, until we render ourselves
completely incapable of doing anything!
But confidence is just another skill, and you can learn to
do anything. So here are five tips to help you build your confidence.
1)
Be positive. Spending your time thinking “what
if my horse spooks?” will not help your confidence. Instead visualise a positive
outcome. Rather than visualising your horse spooking, visualise yourself
trotting confidently around the corner.
2)
Small steps. If you become nervous in certain
situations, break down the situation into bite size chunks. Are you nervous at
a show? Break down the day into pieces. Are you nervous of loading your horse,
or getting on in a strange place, or maybe even finding your way somewhere you
haven’t been before. Once you have broken the day down, you will be able to identify
what is causing the nervousness and then work with that area.
3)
Be kind. Don’t be self-critical, be kind to
yourself. Remind yourself how far you have come, praise yourself for every
step, even if it is simply that you were a little less scared than yesterday,
remember to praise yourself!
4)
Set yourself up to succeed. Don’t over face
yourself. If you enter a class above your ability and don’t do very well, you
will enter into a negative mind-set about it. Why not enter a class below your
ability, then you will have a rewarding experience before you start to push
yourself.
5)
Breathe. When we are nervous, our muscles
tighten and we don’t breathe properly. Our brain requires oxygen to function,
you cannot think when you are scared!! Take a deep breathe, and another, and
another, and off you go!
For more help with confidence in the saddle, why not take a
look at Kelly Mark’s book Perfect Confidence, click here for more information.